Weep with Me: How Lament Opens a Door for Reconciliation

Gospel unity creates racial harmony.

However, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said that “the most segregated hour in America is 11:00 a.m. on Sunday morning.” Equipped with the gospel, the church should be the catalyst for reconciliation, yet it continues to cultivate immense pain and division.

In an effort to bridge the canyon misunderstanding, insensitivity, and hurt, Mark Vroegop has written this timely resource about the biblical practice of lament, which he defines as “the biblical language of empathy and exile, perseverance and protest.” Encouraging you to “weep with those who weep” (Rom. 12:15), Vroegop invites you to mourn with him over the brokenness that has caused division and to use lament to begin the journey toward a diverse and united church.

Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament
Winner of the ECPA 2020 Book of the Year Award

Where do you turn when the dark clouds of pain, suffering, and loss roll into your life? In a broken world, difficult trials can lead quickly to discouragement and despair—even for Christians. But the Bible sets forth an oft-neglected practice for dealing with such trials: lament. To lament is to turn to God in honest, desperate prayer, giving voice to the reality of our emotions—as intense and tumultuous as they may be. Ultimately, lament is an expression of faith in the God who hears our cries and responds with mercy and grace. Drawing on examples from the Bible and his own story of loss, pastor Mark Vroegop walks through steps of lament (Turn, Complain, Ask, and Trust) to show what lament is, why it is important, and how to enter into it—helping readers learn to live between the poles of God’s goodness and a hard life.

15 Things Seminary Couldn’t Teach Me

Some lessons can’t be learned in a classroom.

A seminary education is immensely valuable, offering theological preparation, spiritual formation, and wise mentoring. But many new pastors are discouraged when the realties of their first call don’t line up with what they came to expect from assigned readings and classroom discussions.

Bridging the gap between seminary training and real life in a local church, fifteen veteran pastors and ministry leaders offer advice and encouragement related to a host of real-world issues, such as leading congregations though seasons of suffering, handling conflict, accepting a call, leaving a church, and more.


5 Reasons You Should Preach Through Lamentations – 9 Marks Journal – November 2018
Civil Rights Trip: One Church’s Story – 9 Marks Journal – October 2018
How My Mega-Church Hasn’t Burnt Me Out –  9 Marks Journal – July 2018
Too Big to Discipline? How a Mega-Church Practices Matthew 18 –  9Marks Journal – January 2018
Is Your Preaching Tone Deaf? – 9Marks Journal – June 2015
Be Wise When You Revitalize – The Gospel Coalition – September 2012
Humble Pie: 4 Lessons from a Bad Decision – Christianity Today – Spring 2006

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